I Carry You

Dear Aaron,

For nine months I carried you inside of me.

For 13 1/2 years (and ten days), I carried you with me.

For 58 weeks now, I carry you, unseen, in my heart, my soul, the very marrow of my bones.

In a very literal sense, your cells still reside in my body and likely always will. 

But I carry you in other ways, too. 

I made a watch band this past week using the beads I made your trach chains from. I use your lunchbox every day at work. I wear the bracelet Gramma gave me after you passed, which also now symbolizes my life without her as well. Your prints hang in one office, your toys are in both. 

I always wear butterflies and your name is on my key ring. Your pictures hang on my walls and keepsakes are in the curio cabinet. Your minion rock is on my desk.

There's a butterfly on the back of my car and an angel crystal hanging from the rearview mirror. Your "hope" bib hangs on the shelf in my room next to the ribbons from your funeral spray. My watch face is yellow roses and a butterfly for you and Gramma as is my lockscreen. 

You are everywhere with me.  

I see your smiles pop up on my computer screen; I miss the sound of your laughter. 

I carry you, and your spirit carries me.

You carry me through the days and nights, through the anguish and the pain, and through the smiles that come in spite of my tears. 

I'm not sure how it has been 58 weeks already, and yet only 58 weeks. It seems like forever since we said goodbye, and yet it doesn't. 

I spent yesterday working on a ceramic nativity from the same mold as one of Gramma's that I've always loved. It was calming and introspective. I miss the two of you so much, and I also feel your strength. You lift me and teach me and make me more than I could ever have been without you. 

You carry me; I carry you.

Forever and always.

Love you so much, little man.

Love,
Mama

"We do not have to rely on memories to recapture the spirit of those we have loved and lost – they live within our souls in some perfect sanctuary which even death cannot destroy."

- Nan Witcomb